Hey all you readers at Kaytee Lauren! I am so delighted to be here today to talk to you about something that has now consumed almost four and a half years of my life. That's a pretty significant amount of time when you've only been on this earth for a short time. What am I talking about you may ask? Well, here it is:
How to make a relationship last at a young age
I promise not to make it too serious and sappy, because really, that's not what life and relationships should be like. I guess it's time to introduce you to the people in this relationship...
Yes that's me, the girl behind the little blog Blank Pages. A place where personal style, love, and life are located. I am a thrift store lover, antique shopper, and beach going floridian. Currently studying nursing in hopes to work in the labor and delivery unit, most of the time I have my nose in the books.
This would be my other half, Jared. He is the golf enthusiast, soccer playing, and all around great guy. We are pretty much opposites when it comes to everything, but I think that's what makes our relationship so interesting.
Here are two pictures of us lovebirds from about four years ago. I was a freshman in high school and he was a junior; apprently I liked those older men. You can read the story of how we met: here. From these past years, I could not imagine my life without him. But believe me, a relationship when you are young is not all rainbows and unicorns. It takes a lot of work and dedication. Showing the world that you have what it takes to make it last is a tough battle. It's also a learning process, because as you are growing, so is your significant other. You are each trying to make your own way in the world, while tying it all together. I know, it sounds almost impossible. Now, I don't know everything, nor do I have it figured out, but I am here to tell you three things that make a young relationship last until the time you are wrinkley and sitting on the porch together.
There is nothing in the world that can cure a bad mood, argument, or too much seriousness like laughter. You have to not only be able to laugh at things when they are funny, but you have to also be able to laugh at yourself. Laugh at yourself when you say something stupid or embarrass yourself. Laugh with each other about anything that gives you the littlest tickle. When I get older, if Jared and I have the wrinkliest faces from laughing, my life will feel complete.
Trust in yourself, trust in each other, trust in the Lord. Trust yourself that you can do anything, and that you are still your own person even when you have someone by your side. Trust in each other so much that when your apart, there is no worry in your mind about what the other person is doing. Trust in the Lord to handle your relationship. He knows what is best for you and would never put you into something you could not handle. If you put everything you have into these things, your relationship can withstand almost anything.
The practice of compromise is something that takes a while. For us, it can be as simple as "You can watch The Bachelor, and then I get watch the golf channel." This was something that was always harder for me than it was for Jared, maybe it's a woman thing. However, if both people come to an understanding that fairness is not just an option, there will be a lot more of #1 in a household.
And lastly, an underlying principle in any relationship:
never stop loving
bake each other cupcakes, shower each other with kisses, ask how each other's day was, and give your man a pat on the back (or lower) every once in a while.
To all those out there who have a special someone by your side, I wish you all the happiness and cupcakes in the world.
Amy! What wonderful advice, thank you for sharing the love and experiences you and Jared have together. We wish you two happiness, and I can't wait to follow through on your blog as your journey continues.
ps. I LOVE, ha, the last picture!